Week 31 – You choose the culture

13 For He has rescued us and has drawn us to Himself from the dominion of darkness, and has transferred us to the kingdom of His beloved Son,

Colossians 1:13

I have the privilege of conducting many wedding ceremonies, getting to know and counseling the couple and of course helping with the preparation towards their big day. One thing that stands out to me the most as I watch the interaction take place with the various families is the culture which they choose to live by. This is usually one which is outside the Kingdom of God.

In the moment of the ceremony, everyone pays attention to the Word shared, the vows that are exchanged and the register being signed, right up to the moment the newlywed couple gets pronounced. Everyone is quiet and gives this God-ordained ceremony the due respect it deserves. That is, right up until just before and during the reception. It seems that once the ceremony is done and dusted, the moment is forgotten and everyone goes back to their old lives and carries on as if there was never a sacred moment just a few minutes or hours ago.

As a minister, I choose to live out my whole life wanting to walk on my journey with the Lord. It is rather sad to watch as so many would much rather live in the culture of the world today, instead of living in a manner that would please the Lord. It seems that life is more enjoyable when men and women cut loose, partying the night away with the drinks flowing, vulgar language, and, and… I’m sure you know exactly what I’m talking about.

To make things even more clear: One easily sees how so many try and avoid chatting to the pastor at these ceremonies, as they either see us as the one who frowns upon their lifestyle (as perhaps stated in my illustration) or perhaps it is merely the fact that we are simply too uptight in their eyes.

Now don’t get me wrong… we can all enjoy the night and ‘cut loose’ and have some fun, especially as Christians. After all, we live in a Kingdom that celebrates much. But as you watch their behaviour, there is this clear distinct display that they would much rather choose to live out their lives as this world does.

It is in watching these men and women in their behavior that I find myself seeing where so many fail to discover (and see) this life of abundance Christ speaks of, one freely given to those who desire it.

Everyone desires an abundant life, the newlywed couple certainly hope to have such a life for their marriage. One thing becomes abundantly clear – if you desire to walk in this fullness Christ promises, you have to choose the right culture. In this case, the Kingdom culture.

Those who find their being in Christ, will find their journey of fulfillment in Him too – a life of far less regrets than those who choose to walk in the kingdom of this world.

My friend, today you get to choose the culture you desire to live in. Why not make it the culture of God’s kingdom?


Heavenly Father. All of life and enjoyment finds its fulfillment in You. May my whole life line itself up behind Your will and desire, Your culture. Here is where I find the abundant life Christ spoke of. Lead me I pray in Jesus name. Amen.

2 thoughts on “Week 31 – You choose the culture

  1. Thanks. This is so important for couples that get married and will help me to answer my daughter’s questions!

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